My husband and I love to travel together, but no matter how close you are or how long you’ve been together, travelling together can be both a rewarding experience and a potential minefield.
Over the last 30 years we’ve learnt a lot about how to get the most out of a trip by respecting each other’s travel personalities:
- We both need time apart as well as time together
- I enjoy some down-time to lie by a pool or on a beach and read a book and he doesn’t
- He likes to have a tv in the room and I don’t
- I like art galleries and museums and he doesn’t
- He likes to shop and I don’t
- He likes to pack ahead and I’m a last-minute girl
- I don’t like to overindulge at breakfast because I don’t want to miss out on lunch – he’d prefer to have a big breakfast and manage with a snack at lunchtime
- I like to get to an airport, do the check-in thing and sit down with a drink and a book to wait. He doesn’t like to get there early and once checked in will then want to chat about pretty much nothing while I’m trying to zone out.
- We both enjoy foodie walking tours
- We both enjoy wandering and ending up somewhere we didn’t expect to
- We both enjoy road trips
- We both love produce markets
- We both enjoy street food but will book one “special” night out each trip
Fortunately, he’s happy to people watch if I want to do the museum thing, and I’m happy to read if he wants to watch tv. We’re cool about each other’s personal space and as a result, he’s still my favourite person to travel with – even though he does do my head in at airports and don’t get me started on him and menus.
Where are you likely to find your partner in a new city you’ve travelled to?
Grant – Absolutely not in the shops or on the high street. I’d find her in a slightly edgy or grungey coffee shop – drinking tea – with her journal. Probably somewhere with street art.
Jo – Sitting in a park watching the world go by probably waiting for me to take a photo or finish in a gallery or museum.
What’s the first thing your partner does in a new city?
G – Take to the streets on a walking tour. She hates those introductory city tours where at the end they take you to one of those gem/batik/craft/whatever stores. She has no tolerance for that.
J – Whatever walking tour I’ve booked us on.
What is your partner’s travelling downfall?
G – She’s so paranoid about missing planes that she’s always way too early and we have too long at the airport. She’s a control freak and doesn’t trust any booking she hasn’t made herself. She also doesn’t like being managed. I remember a bus tour we did around Europe many years ago and her mood when she was told where to be by what time. We had a deal where we’d only do the included tours and everything else would be on our own.
J – He’s a “just in time” man and doesn’t allow for local traffic conditions. While he likes to pack early, he starts getting ready to leave at the time we need to be gone. These days I tell him we need to be gone 30 minutes before we actually need to be gone. He worries more about the budget than I do – both a plus and a minus. He doesn’t like to change destinations if it involves another flight and more time in an airport.
What is your partner’s travelling personality?
G – She likes to have transport and accommodation organised, and a list of other things researched but likes to wander and have lots of unplanned time. She hates feeling too structured and managed.
J – It’s about the people and culture for him. He likes to get under the skin of a place. He doesn’t like a fixed schedule and wants to be able to spend as long as he wants if it’s somewhere that’s interesting.
Why does your partner like to travel?
G – For the experiences.
J – For the culture.
What is the most fun about travelling with your partner?
G – She can laugh at nearly anything and likes to explore. She’s organised, but not restrictive with it. She doesn’t mind doing things on her own if I’m not interested in it and will push me into doing things I mightn’t otherwise be bothered doing.
J – He’s usually happy to do whatever I decide – or wait while I do it if he’s not interested. He’ll try anything – especially when it comes to food.
What is the place your partner most wants to travel to?
G – I can’t answer that – she has a list that changes all the time. Probably wherever she’s booked to go after our next holiday. Seriously though, it’s easier to talk about places that aren’t on her list. There are also lots of places she wants to go back to and explore more deeply.
J – He’d love to do a Cunard cruise out of Southampton. One that goes through the Suez or Panama Canal. He’d love to see the Northern Lights and would like to go to St Petersburg.
What is the place your partner least wants to travel to?
G – Probably the Middle East or anywhere where she feels her freedoms are limited, there are too many rules she has to abide by, or where she feels that she can’t go into a bar on her own and have a drink if she wanted to do that. She doesn’t have a burning desire to go to Africa either.
J – His idea of travel hell is an isolated resort, “honeymoon” style islands, gated communities – anywhere advertising seclusion or luxurious privacy. He’s not a villa type of man and needs other people around him. Where I dream of a South Pacific Island or a lonely Scottish croft by a loch, I can see him actually cringe at the idea.
What is your partner’s favourite part of a new country?
G – The photo opportunities. I sometimes joke that I’m on holiday with Jo and her camera. And the food. She loves produce markets and street food.
J – The people watching and local street food. He’s not interested in how the wealthy live or eat – it’s about everyday life and food for him. He loves wandering around supermarkets so he can see what the cost of living is.
What is your partner’s most annoying habit at the dinner table while travelling?
G – She has to take a photo of everything she eats and drinks.
J – Just choose what you want to eat already – it’s not that hard!
What does your partner dislike about travelling?
G – The crowds – she hates crowds. She also doesn’t like anything that’s too pristine or glitzy or non-inclusive or elitist and she doesn’t like feeling as though she’s controlled or heavily scheduled. She’s not big on the clichéd attractions or eating at places just because of a celebrity tag – she’s a bit of a reverse snob. Oh, and she hates queueing.
J – Hanging about airports and getting to airports
What is your partner’s travel superpower?
G – The planning and research she puts in. She has a knack for finding things that aren’t in the Lonely Planet Guide.
J – He can pack a suitcase and have it look the same when it’s opened as it did when he shut it. He also knows what’s going on around him – spatial awareness. He makes me feel safe.
We got each other’s answers spot on. Why not try it for yourself with your travel partner?
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