Okay, so last week I completed the closing ceremony for 2021…now it’s time to get stuck into 2022.
Word of the Year
I manage projects for a living in my day job and know that you can’t have “scope-creep” without it impacting one of the big three: time, money, or the quality of the end-product. So it is with boundaries – a concept I don’t have a good relationship with.
As a consequence over the last few years, I’ve allowed my day job to seep into my precious scheduled days off, and other responsibilities and excuses to come before the things that are important to me.
Not only does this impact the time I have available for my writing, my business, and the things I love doing, it also has an impact on the quality of my output. More importantly, it’s messing with my head and leaving an increasingly bitter taste in my mouth as I see myself working harder than ever but still so far from my end goal (more on that below).
It’s time, to put myself further up my own list. That’s why my word of the year for 2022 is … (wait for it) …
This year I’m putting myself first. My family, my health, my headspace, my work, my dreams, my goals.
Sure I have duties and responsibilities, but rather than making myself completely available I’ll be tightening some of those boundaries – enabling me to expand others, but on my terms.
I owe it to myself.
Goals and Resolutions
I’ve not set goals or uttered resolutions at the stroke of midnight on December 31 for many years. This is partly because it’s probably been that many years since I saw midnight on December 31 (I’m normally tucked up in bed well before that) but because it’s been easier for me not to. After all, if I don’t set goals or resolutions and I don’t achieve them, well, there’s been no harm done, right? And as an uber Pisces and a drifter at heart, that sort of suits me. Besides, it’s no longer fashionable to set them, right? We’re supposed to lean into things…or something.
That’s probably true. But not for everyone. The truth is I need goals not just to achieve things, but to make sense and order where there otherwise is none. The years I set goals I do more than the years where I allow myself to see what happens.
I totally get why it can impact your mental health to do the whole resolution palaver. I do. But, I woke on New Year’s Day this year feeling the same as I did last year and the year before that – although this year there was also a ball of anxiety in my tummy due to a project in the day job that’s keeping me awake. Hey ho. I don’t want to wake on January 1, 2023, feeling the same way, but if I do the same this year as last year, that’s exactly what I’ll be doing.
While I mightn’t stick to all the goals I set – and the umpteen statistics I’ve read are positive I won’t – I will have made more of a difference than if I’d done nothing. And that, for me, is the key.
That’s why this year as well as a word of the year I’m making resolutions. They’re aligned with my 101 things in 1001 days (and that will be getting a reboot too), but essentially revolve around 3 long-term goals:
- Become financially independent and replace my corporate salary with the proceeds of my writing
- Create a body of work that I’m proud of
- Create a physical body that’s healthy, strong, and fit for life
Underneath these are other short-term goals that hit all the usual “SMART” principles that I won’t bother you with now.
As for my resolutions? I’m following the following set of principles:
- Thinking, pondering, visualising, sleeping on them before you start
- Make more than one, but not too many – I’m going with four.
- Make them SMART
- Have a mixture of timeframes – I’m going with 1 x daily, 1 x weekly, 1 x monthly and 1 x one-off.
- Tell the world
So, in the interests of telling the world, here are mine:
- Move daily – sometimes it might be 30 minutes, sometimes more, but move.
- Do something fun once a week – it might be a “date” with myself or my husband or something else entirely that doesn’t involve work.
- Send out an author newsletter each month.
- Book our UK trip and take the entire month of October off work.
What about you? Are you a goal setter, resolution maker, set a word or intention for the year?