“New Year resolutions rarely work because good intentions don’t often survive a collision with reality.” Seth Godin.
Regular readers will recall that this year I have avoided the usual rash declarations regarding massive weight loss within an unrealistic time frame. I’ve also not made any of the usual rash declarations regarding massive amounts of exercise and learning to run 10km within and unrealistic time frame.
In fact this year the only declaration that I’ve made is that I won’t be doing any running in 2013- something my chiropractor (who has been pleading with me to give up on the idea for the last couple of years) will be most pleased to hear…although I do suspect it will damage his cash-flow.
So, why am I still going on about it?
Quite simply, because Sarah Wayland from That Space in Between is hosting another linky thing on “what I know about resolutions?”
So, what do I know?
Absolutely nothing…except that for me, they don’t work. They never have. It’s just taken me all these years to let go of them. I’m a slow learner.
To be honest, a big part of me wants to let it all go and just see where I end up. There’s a whole lot of promise and potential in that. Like if you blow the seeds on a dandelion- they’ll land and grow somewhere…or not.
Sure I know the theory about focus and eyes on the ball, or whatever, but I’ve always found goals to be both limiting and elusive. By their very nature you have to achieve them- the alternative is failure. But what if the goal in the first place was the wrong one? What does achieving that mean? My theory is that if I’m not attached to a specific something, I still have some choice over what doors I can open.
The other thing about a goal is that it has a start date and an end date- and that in itself means that at some point there is a goodbye. And I don’t like goodbyes- or endings. I like starting things though- again it’s the promise and the potential of just how amazing it might end up being that rocks my boat.
This doesn’t mean that I’m going into 2013 without intentions- I have plenty of those…I wrote about it here and here…but I have this weird contrary idea that if I don’t call them goals, I have a better chance of achieving them… or not… or something completely different that turns out to be absolutely perfect.
The part of me that is into letting go is loving that I don’t care that I don’t know how this year is going to pan out. I’m sure it will have it’s blah moments. I’m sure it will have its losses. But somehow, it all feels quite pivotal- as though 2012 was a practice run.
Only time will tell.